Well, yes, I do have another 'have-to' that I forgot about. I have to pay my taxes; but then I really don't mind because, well, my taxes help pay for the roads I drive on; they help pay for the library I use; some of the golf courses; most all our parks and recreation areas; our world class kayak river run; my pension; my dad's pension; and my children's salaries. They also help the poor people in my neighborhood; the old people who cannot work anymore; and they help provide meals for the kids whose parents don't have the money to feed them. Oh and then there is the police and fire departments which I really appreciate and actually needed a couple of times this year.
Health care too -- I am soon to be on Medicare. My friends are all on Medicare and receiving pretty decent coverage -- they even think the government is doing a good job running it.
That leaves national defense. Although, I think we are fighting an intelligence war with brute force and need to change the way we think about national defense; I believe my tax dollars have to help with that too. So, there you have it -- a 'have to' no one really likes; yet I think I use enough of the services that I am happy to pay my share which is close to 14% of my income.
Do you have too many Have-Tos?
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Monday, August 15, 2011
Enjoy the Now!
When I go out, whether it be for a hike, walk, social hour, dinner, drinks, dancing, I am rarely the first to go home. At parties, I am often the last to leave, even if I was the first to arrive. On a hike, I may walk faster then some, but I still want to stop and take pictures or for a bite to eat. If we are walking a constant 5 miles, I will walk steady, but always want a social hour afterwards.
So many times, people cannot socialize because they 'have-to" do something or another. Some don't show up at all; some show up, but then 'have-to' go. I, on the other hand, rarely 'have-to' go. I don't want to rush -- so unless it is truly one of my few 'have-tos', I have enough time to enjoy what I am doing right now! I am not in a hurry to do something else.
So why do people have so many have-tos? Are they self-imposed? They have to be. I don't think you can blame your have-tos on someone else.
So many times, people cannot socialize because they 'have-to" do something or another. Some don't show up at all; some show up, but then 'have-to' go. I, on the other hand, rarely 'have-to' go. I don't want to rush -- so unless it is truly one of my few 'have-tos', I have enough time to enjoy what I am doing right now! I am not in a hurry to do something else.
So why do people have so many have-tos? Are they self-imposed? They have to be. I don't think you can blame your have-tos on someone else.
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Why are there so many have tos in your life?
I am always amazed at how many people have to do so many things. I have had very few have-tos in my life. I had to work and I had to take care of my kids. Now that I am retired, I do only what I want to do!
I began limiting the number of have-tos in my life when I was in my twenties. When my children were very young 3 and 5, we spent Saturday mornings cleaning. Why was I cleaning on Saturday morning? One reason was that was how I was brought up --every Saturday, we had to clean our rooms, change the beds and do whatever other chores were assigned to us. The other more valid reason was that I worked all week and Saturday was the only day I had to clean.
So instead of enjoying my children on one of the two days I had with them, I badgered them to clean their rooms while I cleaned the rest of the house.
One day, I asked myself; why am I doing this? My answer had nothing to do with me and everything to do with my mom. I realized I was cleaning my house for my mom, not for me. I decided, my house did not have to be picture perfect. I chose to enjoy my children on Saturday mornings instead of cleaning. For the first time in my life, I felt free to do what I wanted to do on Saturday mornings. From that point on, the kids and I did fun stuff together.
I began limiting the number of have-tos in my life when I was in my twenties. When my children were very young 3 and 5, we spent Saturday mornings cleaning. Why was I cleaning on Saturday morning? One reason was that was how I was brought up --every Saturday, we had to clean our rooms, change the beds and do whatever other chores were assigned to us. The other more valid reason was that I worked all week and Saturday was the only day I had to clean.
So instead of enjoying my children on one of the two days I had with them, I badgered them to clean their rooms while I cleaned the rest of the house.
One day, I asked myself; why am I doing this? My answer had nothing to do with me and everything to do with my mom. I realized I was cleaning my house for my mom, not for me. I decided, my house did not have to be picture perfect. I chose to enjoy my children on Saturday mornings instead of cleaning. For the first time in my life, I felt free to do what I wanted to do on Saturday mornings. From that point on, the kids and I did fun stuff together.
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cleaning,
family life,
housework,
playing,
working
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